A Frank Look at Sexual Assault on a College Campus

J. Natrasevschi:

1 of 4 women are raped or sexually assaulted on a campus. Be kind to each other. No means No the first time it is said.

Originally posted on Sherman Ave:

I never thought it would be hard to say no. In my head, I imagined a stranger approaching me at a party; he would ask if I wanted to have sex with him, and if I didn’t, I’d decline, and that would be that. But in my experience, that’s not how it usually goes. I never thought that in my experience it wouldn’t be a stranger, but a friend or a boyfriend. I never thought that after I said no once, or even twice, they would keep asking. I didn’t take into account how my usual resolve might be weakened by alcohol, or the pressure of being alone with him. And I never thought that my answer and what I wanted would be so thoroughly disregarded.

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Pause

I paused today to be Thankful.
I am Thankful for this day.
I am Thankful for life.
I am Thankful to breath.
I am Thankful for the ability to live and breathe another day.

Life is worth living.
Life gets better.

Pause, live and breathe another day.


Survivor’s Story – The Sum of What I Have Learned

By Anonymous

Do you remember as a child when you were told exercise is good for you? You exercise to regain yourself, to feel prettier, feel healthy. Sometimes it doesn’t work that way. There are people waiting lurking in the shadows. The shadow people have no heart, no sense of right and wrong. They only think of themselves and have no remorse for the pain they inflict on others.

To survive the showdown you must fight for your life. Shadow people will do more than rape you. You must fight for your life, because it depends on it. Fight like it is the last night you will breath or be on this earth. Fight!!!

Shadow people know their prey. Be prepared for what follows. Change your locks and phone number. My shadow person had a key. I only found out after he broke in and ransacked my safe place. He would call my phone, to the point that my phone would scare me when it rang. I changed my locks, phone number and added a deadbolt.

Trust your instinct. To survive you must know your surroundings. If something doesn’t feel right trust yourself. It is ok to trust your instincts.

Change things up. Don’t always jog in the same place or same time. Don’t go to the gym or leave work like a time clock. Being unpredictable is safe. No one should be able to map out your day or night.

All of these things saved me from my shadow person. I trusted my instincts. If you think you are being followed or stalked believe in yourself? You are not crazy. You are being safe.

Fight for your life. You may be punched, broken and bruised but you will be alive for another day. I was badly punched, broken and bruised but I am alive. Alive for another day, another month, another year.

Fight like it is the last night you will breath or be on this earth. Fight for your life. Fight!!!


The Silent Sisters

Originally posted on 22 going on 33:

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Silence.

Forced, coerced, shameful. Voices shocked, choked, suppressed.

Lost.

It wasn’t until I broke my silence with a whisper into the ether of the blogosphere that I discovered how very, very many other women were walking in silence beside me. 

We have been molested by family members, assaulted by strangers, raped by once-trusted lovers. And like a silent sisterhood, we cloister ourselves and self-flagellate within the cold stone walls of our minds, while ensuring the world does not ever, ever find out about our shame, our filth, our perversions. We carry the weight of silence, sometimes for decades, and it becomes a part of us.

Silence feels like the only way to survive.

But it isn’t.

It’s Hell.

Because while we remain silent to the outside world, inside our souls are screaming. The torment we endured from our assailants is magnified and repeated over and over and over again by own…

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Have You Told Them Lately That You Love Them?

J. Natrasevschi:

You Are Loved!

Originally posted on Share With Us @ Clouds N Cups:

I guess it must have been due to the recent event that my subconscious has reminded me of a song and especially after reading a comment from our previous post.

“That is a sad story…it is all too common too….”  

Yes indeed, what this lovely soul has commented is very true. A sad story that is all too common in the real life…and it really hurts to acknowledge this.

However, are we capable to prevent this?

We definitely can if we wanted to.

The first duty of love is to listen. ~ Paul Tillich

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Love is a better teacher than duty. ~ Albert Einstein

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The best proof of love is trust. ~ Joyce Brothers

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The best thing to hold onto in life is each other. ~ Audrey Hepburn

Whether they are good or bad, rich or poor, beautiful or ugly… the best things to hold onto in life are the…

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Advice for the Loved Ones of Rape Survivors

Originally posted on One Woman:

In the wake of Sunday’s piano debacle, I did a lot of internet searching Monday about PTSD, anxiety, and panic attacks.  It took all day for me to shake the effects of the morning.  This is such a common problem, not just among rape survivors, but for people in general.

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Violet Richardson Award by Soroptimist of Fort Collins

On Tuesday February 18th Josephine Natrasevschi a senior at Fort Collins High School was honored with the Violet Richardson Award by Soroptimist of Fort Collins. The Soroptimist Violet Richardson Award recognizes and honors young women between the ages of 14 and 17 who make the community and world a better place through volunteer efforts this year Josephine Natrasevschi from Fort Collins High School was honored for her project, Protect Yourself.

I am a Girl Scout and have learned the importance of service. I have been an active participant in community service ranging from decorating bags for Meals on Wheels as a kindergartner to my Gold Award Project, Protect Yourself. In 5th grade my troop decided to adopt a nursing home. This was our first major project and we were excited as could be. Our mission was to go regularly and read to, sing to, bring art and visit with the residents of Columbine Nursing Home. They loved to hear about our lives and our adventures (or at least they humored our young and self-centered minds). I earned my Girl Scout Bronze Award through my service with the Columbine Nursing Home. I also learned the importance of SENIORS and how to treasure their stories. This is one of the reasons I am studying to be a certified nurse aid this year in addition to my studies.

At Lesher Middle School, I worked on a service project for the homeless with Northern Colorado Catholic charities “The Mission” to earn my Girl Scout Silver Award. My service included collecting laundry soap, toiletries, crafts, school supplies, wrapping presents for Christmas and cleaning and organizing the mission. What I remember the most was helping teach crafts. I met kids much younger than me and those of my age without a home. They would catch the school bus daily at the shelter for school. I never knew this side of homelessness before and it made me very thankful for what I had previously taken for granted.

While attending Fort Collins High School; I have worked with National Honor Society, Math Honor Society and Science Honor Society to aid the community. Still my most substantial and meaningful project has been with Girl Scouts. I researched, trained, blogged, developed, and taught a class to aid in Sexual Assault and Rape Prevention. I have taught this class in Fort Collins and Gunnison CO, Boston MA, and Providence, RI. I have influenced people in China, India, Australia, Pakistan, Saudi Arabia and England with my program. Some people have learned hands on from me. Others learn from the instructors I have taught but many have found the information in my blog http://protecty0urself.wordpress.com/ (interestingly enough this blog has formed a sort of community, one of trust and support). I have dedicated over 400 hours to this project and effected over 4500 people thus far.

I have been asked why I chose this project. Rape and Sexual Assault is something that touches all of us. 1 OUT OF 4 women are raped on a college campus and unfortunately I have witnessed the direct result of this statistic through family and friends. A couple of weeks ago President Obama signed legislation to study and help solve this problem. Last week college administrators from all over the nation met at the University of Virginia’s campus for the first ever conference on sexual assault on college campuses. This is an important step. By sharing with each other and compiling a list of information regarding what works and what doesn’t a solution may be found?

I plan to continue my service to the community while in college. I hope to attend Brown University and would like to help establish a Sexual Assault program there. My goal is to provide education and prevention, rape kits on campus, advocates for victims, and therapy for victims. I also believe Student athletes can be used to help educate and prevent rape. I would like to establish this program at Brown and eventually share it with other Ivy League schools to test on their campuses.

Josie Natrasevschi and Coach Conrad Crist


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