Category Archives: Advice

A Frank Look at Sexual Assault on a College Campus

1 of 4 women are raped or sexually assaulted on a campus. Be kind to each other. No means No the first time it is said.

Sherman Ave

I never thought it would be hard to say no. In my head, I imagined a stranger approaching me at a party; he would ask if I wanted to have sex with him, and if I didn’t, I’d decline, and that would be that. But in my experience, that’s not how it usually goes. I never thought that in my experience it wouldn’t be a stranger, but a friend or a boyfriend. I never thought that after I said no once, or even twice, they would keep asking. I didn’t take into account how my usual resolve might be weakened by alcohol, or the pressure of being alone with him. And I never thought that my answer and what I wanted would be so thoroughly disregarded.

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I paused today to be Thankful.
I am Thankful for this day.
I am Thankful for life.
I am Thankful to breath.
I am Thankful for the ability to live and breathe another day.

Life is worth living.
Life gets better.

Pause, live and breathe another day.

Survivor’s Story – The Sum of What I Have Learned

By Anonymous

Do you remember as a child when you were told exercise is good for you? You exercise to regain yourself, to feel prettier, feel healthy. Sometimes it doesn’t work that way. There are people waiting lurking in the shadows. The shadow people have no heart, no sense of right and wrong. They only think of themselves and have no remorse for the pain they inflict on others.

To survive the showdown you must fight for your life. Shadow people will do more than rape you. You must fight for your life, because it depends on it. Fight like it is the last night you will breath or be on this earth. Fight!!!

Shadow people know their prey. Be prepared for what follows. Change your locks and phone number. My shadow person had a key. I only found out after he broke in and ransacked my safe place. He would call my phone, to the point that my phone would scare me when it rang. I changed my locks, phone number and added a deadbolt.

Trust your instinct. To survive you must know your surroundings. If something doesn’t feel right trust yourself. It is ok to trust your instincts.

Change things up. Don’t always jog in the same place or same time. Don’t go to the gym or leave work like a time clock. Being unpredictable is safe. No one should be able to map out your day or night.

All of these things saved me from my shadow person. I trusted my instincts. If you think you are being followed or stalked believe in yourself? You are not crazy. You are being safe.

Fight for your life. You may be punched, broken and bruised but you will be alive for another day. I was badly punched, broken and bruised but I am alive. Alive for another day, another month, another year.

Fight like it is the last night you will breath or be on this earth. Fight for your life. Fight!!!

The Silent Sisters

Have You Told Them Lately That You Love Them?

You Are Loved!

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I guess it must have been due to the recent event that my subconscious has reminded me of a song and especially after reading a comment from our previous post.

“That is a sad story…it is all too common too….”  

Yes indeed, what this lovely soul has commented is very true. A sad story that is all too common in the real life…and it really hurts to acknowledge this.

However, are we capable to prevent this?

We definitely can if we wanted to.

The first duty of love is to listen. ~ Paul Tillich


Love is a better teacher than duty. ~ Albert Einstein


The best proof of love is trust. ~ Joyce Brothers


The best thing to hold onto in life is each other. ~ Audrey Hepburn

Whether they are good or bad, rich or poor, beautiful or ugly… the best things to hold onto in life are the…

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Advice for the Loved Ones of Rape Survivors

One Woman

In the wake of Sunday’s piano debacle, I did a lot of internet searching Monday about PTSD, anxiety, and panic attacks.  It took all day for me to shake the effects of the morning.  This is such a common problem, not just among rape survivors, but for people in general.

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How to Listen When Someone You Know Tells You They Were Raped (Susan Rohwer)